Friday, January 28, 2005
Wedding plans update... kinda bad news, kinda good news
So. I may not get my dream wedding after all. I really wanted to get married at this super cute Catholic church kinda near my parents' house and then have the reception at the historic hotel next to the church. It's probably not going to happen now. Turns out, the priest at the church is really by-the-book, and he's not too happy that Victor hasn't really had a local church since he left home almost 12 years ago. Victor still goes to church occasionally, but hasn't become a member of any other church other than the church where he did his baptism/confirmation/stuff, and that church is in Mexico. So the priest is already giving us some grief about that, and he's saying we have to be a member of a Dallas church for six months before he will even talk to us about setting a date at his church.
Also, a friend of the family is getting married at that same church back home in June. Like me, she is a non-Catholic marrying a Catholic. They already have special permission to get married in that church, but the priest has apparently been lecturing her hardcore about how she should become a Catholic. I don't want to deal with that. He's also very strict about only allowing sacred music in the church (no Wedding March or even other classical music)... anyway, it sounds like it would be a big headache to deal with all of that stuff if he did decide to let us get married there.
And finally, I hear that the historic hotel is really expensive for receptions.
So we may be changing our plans to have a Dallas wedding instead. Of the other Catholic churches I've seen back home, there are none that really stand out to me as a fitting place for my wedding (I want a traditional, "older" look to the church, so that the pictures are really pretty and so that the ceremony is nice). Victor is going to scout out some churches here this weekend. There's a huge one near our apartment that looks really nice, and I've been trying to get Victor to go there for a while now, since I'd like to attend a mass there. Also, just in case we did decide to get married there, it would be really easy to get a bilingual ceremony.
For the record, I'm totally OK with marrying a Catholic, and raising the kids Catholic, and I've always planned on sending kids to Catholic school anyway... but for now I'm probably going to stay a non-Catholic. I don't mind going through all of the pre-marriage requirements, and I don't mind being told about how great it would be if I was Catholic, but I don't want someone constantly pressuring me to become one. I know there are plenty of priests out there who will be less authoritative about the whole non-Catholic thing.
So. I may not get my dream wedding after all. I really wanted to get married at this super cute Catholic church kinda near my parents' house and then have the reception at the historic hotel next to the church. It's probably not going to happen now. Turns out, the priest at the church is really by-the-book, and he's not too happy that Victor hasn't really had a local church since he left home almost 12 years ago. Victor still goes to church occasionally, but hasn't become a member of any other church other than the church where he did his baptism/confirmation/stuff, and that church is in Mexico. So the priest is already giving us some grief about that, and he's saying we have to be a member of a Dallas church for six months before he will even talk to us about setting a date at his church.
Also, a friend of the family is getting married at that same church back home in June. Like me, she is a non-Catholic marrying a Catholic. They already have special permission to get married in that church, but the priest has apparently been lecturing her hardcore about how she should become a Catholic. I don't want to deal with that. He's also very strict about only allowing sacred music in the church (no Wedding March or even other classical music)... anyway, it sounds like it would be a big headache to deal with all of that stuff if he did decide to let us get married there.
And finally, I hear that the historic hotel is really expensive for receptions.
So we may be changing our plans to have a Dallas wedding instead. Of the other Catholic churches I've seen back home, there are none that really stand out to me as a fitting place for my wedding (I want a traditional, "older" look to the church, so that the pictures are really pretty and so that the ceremony is nice). Victor is going to scout out some churches here this weekend. There's a huge one near our apartment that looks really nice, and I've been trying to get Victor to go there for a while now, since I'd like to attend a mass there. Also, just in case we did decide to get married there, it would be really easy to get a bilingual ceremony.
For the record, I'm totally OK with marrying a Catholic, and raising the kids Catholic, and I've always planned on sending kids to Catholic school anyway... but for now I'm probably going to stay a non-Catholic. I don't mind going through all of the pre-marriage requirements, and I don't mind being told about how great it would be if I was Catholic, but I don't want someone constantly pressuring me to become one. I know there are plenty of priests out there who will be less authoritative about the whole non-Catholic thing.
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